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You are more powerful than you give yourself credit for. Honestly. When you say things off-the-cuff, you are rarely aware of the impact of those words and thoughts.

That’s dangerous. And, yes, I do mean the casual statements you make to friends, to your kids, and most of all, to yourself.

You are the one person you are always around, the one you can’t escape, who hears everything you say, both aloud and within the confines of your mind. While others can take a break from you, you are uniquely barraged by the thoughts you drum into your mind.

Some people call that kind of conversation self-talk. I call it unintentional self-hypnosis.

Please hear me out: unintentional self-hypnosis isn’t always bad. Sometimes it’s wonderful—if you talk to yourself nicely, encouragingly, about things you want and how you’ll move toward them.

But how many of us have truly empowering conversations in the privacy of our own minds, where no one is watching or hearing, except, unfortunately, our deepest selves. Yes, our childlike, subconscious selves who trust too much, open too wide, and take in everything without discriminating between the useful and the damaging.

That receptive, undiscriminating self is the one you’re talking to when you mentally blurt out: “You idiot! That was the stupidest thing you ever did! You’re going to get fired for sure!”

Now that I’ve described self-talk as a kind of self-hypnosis, albeit unintended, I need to tell you what is generally thought to make hypnosis stick and create change.

These are principles I usually teach clients for the purpose of creating empowering hypnotic suggestions that cause positive, helpful, constructive change. The stuff we’re aiming for.

But the same principles apply to negative, damaging change. Ouch.

In my mind-coach practice, clients learning to hypnotize themselves are taught to create suggestions that:

1-Are specific and stated in present tense.

A positive, useful suggestion might be: I am an intelligent person who learns easily.

A negative, damaging suggestion that many of us proclaim to our subconscious minds might be: I’m a moron who can’t even learn how to work this darned ________. (Fill in computer program, light fixture, new grill…)

Both are specific and stated in the present tense, but one is helpful and the other damaging.

2-Include a result:

In teaching clients how to build positive hypnotic suggestions, the result they seek is a desired change, stated positively, such as ….I weigh 125 pounds or less by October 1st. I am mastering Power Point. I enjoy dating.

What they don’t want—what they choose to get f-a-a-a-r away from is undesired, feared, even dreaded. Yet it, too, is repeated ad nauseum, thoughtlessly: I’ll get fired next week. I have a fatal disease. I’ll be chosen last for the team.

Are you noticing the structure is the same on both positive and negative suggestions?

What should that tell you?

That’s right: Negative suggestions can go to work on you the way positive ones do, and because people give negative suggestions to themselves regularly and repeatedly, they can be quite effective. Negatively and dangerously effective, I mean.

One more caveat. When teaching clients how to empower a positive, desired suggestion, I often ask them to imagine it being true as they speak the words. They’re asked to SEE it as real (picture yourself slim, trim, and with great stamina).

And HEAR it as true (Jennifer, you lost weight! You look great! Yowza!)

And FEEL it concretely (feeling the new slenderness of your leaner waist, sensing the new lightness in your step).

The bad news is that when people give themselves negative, damaging suggestions and reinforce them regularly, they thoughtlessly use the same method: In their mind they SEE themselves getting fired by their boss, HEAR snickers about their new outfit, and FEEL the shame as they pass others in the hallway.

What to do? Since the mechanisms are identical in both positive and negative reinforcement, make the choice to use positive reinforcement on yourself from now on.

That’s right, make up your mind and switch from the negative, self-berating team to the affirmative, continuously-improving, moving-toward-a-better-future, positive team.

Be thoughtful in the words you speak to yourself and the images you project on the movie screen of your mind. Instead of reminding yourself what you don’t want to be, do, or have—remind yourself what you are intentionally choosing. Both tasks take the same time and energy.

The only difference is getting what you want or creating what you least desire. ©2008 by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz. All rights reserved.

About the Author:
Wendy Lapidus-Saltz is “The Optimizer.” She can help you optimize how you use your mind and heart to get what you want—faster and stronger, with more joy and less stress. She works with clients in person and by phone. Reach her at ILAPSAL@aol.com or 312-640-1584. Visit http://www.hypno-attraction.com and http://nonsmoker4life.com

Keyword tags: positive suggestions,self-confidence,making things happen,hypnosis,self help,wishing

There must be a reason why some people can just handle all the tasks that are thrown at them. They can handle the urgent items on their to do lists, the unexpected project changes that show up and even their personal commitments.

The reason these people can easily succeed in what they put their eyes on, get the important stuff done and enjoy time with their families is because they have mastered the art of time management.

Wouldn’t you like to know how they do it?

Would you like to know how you too can manage your time easily?

Here are just 3 of the most powerful techniques that these people use.

Some of the strategies may sound like “common sense” to you, but please don’t just ignore them, use them and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the effectiveness of these strategies – even the ones that sound like common sense.

Time Management Strategy 1:
Gaining Clarity

Most people stress out and can’t seem to figure out what they are doing, why they’re doing it and what the most important thing they need to do is. The reason for this painful overwhelm is the fact that most people don’t spend time gaining clarity.

Clarity is an important prerequisite for productivity. If you are not clear, you are not going to have a highly productive day.

Here’s why – when you are not clear, your mind is still running out trying to find solutions to all the other problems or issues that you are facing and so it’s easy for you to stress out.

The easiest way to boost productivity is to gain clarity.

Ask yourself

1. What are all the things that need to get done?

2. What are the goals I have?

3. What’s the priority level of each goal?

Time Management Strategy 2:
Worrying Less and Getting More done

Are you giving yourself the rest, relaxation and “vacation” time that you deserve?

If you are like most people today, you probably are not. And, here’s the problem with that – when you don’t relax, you are decreasing the level of your productivity. A tired mind is a terrible problem solver!

Have you ever tried solving an important problem at 11PM or even at 1AM after a very long and tiring day? Did it work? How long did it take?

You see, when you are not relaxed, even simple problems take long to get solved and end up wasting a lot more time than they deserve!

Give yourself frequent and short relaxing breaks during the work day and set aside some quality time to spend with your family doing what relaxes you so that you can prepare for another highly productive day at work!

Time Management Strategy 3:
Learning How to Prioritize

The biggest time management problem you and I face today is – not knowing what the most important thing to do at the current moment is.

And, it also kills your productivity. When you don’t know what the most important thing on your list is, your mind is still running around trying to figure out if there are some other potential landmines that need to be dealt with instead of what you’re working on right now.

How do you solve this problem?

You take the questions you asked in step 1 (gaining clarity) and then you look at all the tasks that need to get done and pick the one that’s most important and has the highest level of priority.

About the Author:
Is your to do list overwhelming you? Do you find yourself stuck with an endless mountain of tasks? Discover how you can easily turn that around and master your to do list. Visit http://www.managemytimenow.com to grab your Free time management course and get 7 highly effective time management tips.

Keyword tags: time management, self help, self improvement

Do you like hypnotism? Have you ever had the desire to walk up to another person, maybe your boss, and ask him or her for a raise you have always wanted? Some people believe it to be real while others think it is a load of crap because of all the cartoons about people swinging pendulums in front of their eyes and later on, the victim literally follows the hypnotist’s bidding.

In actual fact, there are many ways you can easily hypnotize someone with the power of your words. This special art is called conversational hypnosis. You will be surprised at how conversational hypnosis can really change your life.

Conversational hypnosis is a very good way to use everyday conversations to get spectacular results in your relationships.

But first, lets examine a brief history of Hypnosis. According to Wikipedia, Hypnosis is known as the technique is sometimes used for medical purposes. It is used to relieve anxiety, and improve or alter the behaviour of people. Wikipedia claims that its effectiveness has been clinically demonstrated in many areas, most notably in the area of acute pain relief. But there are other usages as well. It is also used in popular stage acts in which subjects are persuaded to perform bizarre feats.

If you want to be in control of your own destiny, you need to learn the art of talking to people in such a way that they will do whatever you want them to do. You must give them mental suggestions that permeate into their subconscious mind. By talking the ‘right’ way, you will be able to indirectly coerce people into believing that what you want them to do is what they want to do. Conversational Hypnosis is the best way that you can have to be in full control of your own destiny and not only that… you will be able to help people as well.

Using the Conversational Hypnosis course, they will teach you the basics and tell you about the fundamentals behind the Conversational Hypnosis. Once you pick up the art of conversational hypnosis, you can try it immediately.

You see, Conversational Hypnosis is a fun way to get other people to do the things that you want them to do but you won’t do it in an unethical way but rather a realistic way. Remember the old adage, a person convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. You get to take advantage of the fact that you can be in control and use your words to help someone else. You will find that it even has many life changing benefits once you master the art. The conversational hypnosis course is also very detailed and easy to read.

There are many ways you can utilize this to your advantage. All you need to do is get the right kind of information and you will know how to make full use of it easily. The mind is a very powerful object. As long as you set your mind to something, you will have control all around you easily.

About the Author:
To learn more about Conversational Hypnosis, visit http://www.conversationalhypnosisreview.org/

Keyword tags: conversational hypnosis,underground hypnosis,taylor starr,self help,health,persuasion,hypnosis